An allegation is defined as ‘a claim or assertion that someone has done something illegal or wrong, and is typically made without proof’. In the education sector, the most common type of allegations are made by a student or parent against a teacher or member of staff.
Examples of allegations could include:
Allegations often result in immediate suspension pending an investigation, and the individual may be given very little information about what the allegation is or how long the investigation process may take. Common emotional responses teachers may feel include:
Once suspended, employees are often advised not to contact colleagues. For teachers whose workplace is their main place of social interaction, this can then leave the accused feeling very isolated at a vulnerable time. Allegations and suspension can also be very shaming, which can compound matters and make it hard for the individual to seek support.
Coping with an allegation of any kind is stressful and frightening. The levels of stress can cause the accused to lean towards unhealthy coping mechanisms (such as drugs and alcohol). A better approach would be to:
1. Maintain perspective
It’s important to regard the allegation as a problem to work through, not a matter of life and death (though it may feel like it). Write a gratitude list every day to remind you of the things you appreciate beyond your job (on difficult days, this could be as basic as having a warm bed to sleep in). Work on keeping busy in the hours between getting up and going to bed.
2. Focus on facts
Keep to the facts of the situation as they are revealed to you, and recognise that you are in a process that is largely outside of your control. What action can you take or do you need to take? Do you need to call your union or seek legal advice? Do you need some emotional support to talk things through? Do you need to respond to a letter or ask the school or Local Education Authority (LEA) for more information about the process you are in? What do you know about the allegation made about you?
It may help to write everything down from your perspective. This way, as the process unfolds, you have the facts as you know them to be. Put this in a safe place and leave it alone (you can add to the list if you remember anything else later). This may stop your mind overanalysing the situation.
3. Seek outside support
It is very important not to go through this alone. Find ways to break the isolation, which can undermine your ability to cope. Widen your support network, and talk to trusted people – this could be friends and family, a professional, spiritual or religious leaders, or an independent support organisations (several are listed at the end of this article). Turning to others can provide you with not only reassurance, but also alternative perspectives.
4. Build new routines
Suddenly finding yourself without your usual routine of work can leave you feeling lost and with a lot of time to fret about the situation. Getting a new routine in place is very important, no matter how simple.
Undertake small tasks or activities to keep you moving day by day. Exercise can be extremely beneficial – the release of endorphins relieves anxiety and can help you to feel more positive about yourself and the situation. Sleeping can also be difficult at times of stress, so make sure you’re getting enough rest and consider seeing a doctor if this is proving impossible.
5. Gain control
Focus on what you can do and let go of the rest. Keep things simple. Avoid projecting and imagining an uncertain future. Keep to the facts. Though tempting, avoid searching online for similar stories. Reading about people whose circumstances are not the same as yours can increase feat and anxiety.
6. Take care of yourself
It’s really important to have compassion for yourself in difficult situations. Find healthy ways to soothe and nurture yourself. Take walks, practice yoga, try gardening, meditate or start a new hobby. Both gentle exercise like swimming or energetic workouts like Zumba can all be helpful distractions. Prepare nurturing food (even if you don’t feel like it). Get enough sleep! At the very least, lie down in a dark room and close your eyes. If you have a pet, they will enjoy more playtime and attention from you, and reward you with their affection!
7. Be proactive
Avoid sitting for long periods thinking things over. Do something positive. This could be as simple as clearing out your clutter or polishing your shoes. The allegation can leave you feeling bad about yourself and taking positive action can be an antidote to that negativity by creating a sense of productivity and achievement.
8. Avoid addictive substances or behaviours
Alcohol, drugs, comfort eating, gambling, retail therapy and unnecessary spending may give temporary relief, but can make the problem worse in the long run. These vices can also fuel anxiety and guilt once the short-term rush wears off.
9. Use positive self-talk
Remember that all things pass and this situation will be resolved one way or another. Positive self-talk and affirmations are important to carry you through. When you find yourself thinking negatively about how you are coping or how you will survive this, ask yourself ‘how does this serve me?’ If those thoughts are not helping, replace them with more positive alternatives, such as ‘this is difficult right now, but it will pass and I will survive.’ Remind yourself that you have come this far in life and have encountered difficulties before. What did you do then that helped? What knowledge could draw on now?
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